Being prostituted
Role-playing a scenario where the submissive is prostituted out by their dominant partner. Short Explanation: "Receiving" means you are prostituted out; "Giving" means you arrange the scenario.
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Start Your ChecklistProstitution roleplay involves consensual fantasies where one partner is "sold," "loaned," or "rented" for sexual purposes—either to the other partner playing a client, or within negotiated scenarios involving additional parties. This complex form of erotic roleplay explores themes of objectification, transaction, and power exchange within the safety of consensual partnership.
For couples exploring this fantasy, the appeal often combines the taboo nature of sex-for-payment with elements of objectification, display, and the power dynamics of one partner controlling the other's sexual interactions. The roleplay creates psychological intensity without the legal or safety concerns of actual sex work.
This guide explores how couples can safely incorporate prostitution fantasy into their intimate life, from understanding the appeal to practical implementation and essential safety considerations.
Understanding the Fantasy
Psychological Elements
The prostitution fantasy engages multiple psychological layers. For the "prostituted" partner, appeal might include objectification (being valued purely for sexuality), helplessness within the scenario, or the taboo nature of transactional sex. For the "controlling" partner, appeal might include ownership, the power to sell or direct another's sexuality, or voyeuristic elements.
The transactional element adds unique dynamics—being "bought" carries different psychological weight than simply being "taken." The explicit commodification of sexuality creates intensity that straight roleplay might not achieve.
Common Scenarios
Couples-only scenarios might involve one partner playing a client who has "hired" the other, complete with negotiation, payment (real or symbolic), and performance of "paid" services. More elaborate fantasies might involve the dominant "selling" the submissive to imagined buyers while actually providing the services themselves.
Scenarios involving additional people require extensive negotiation about everyone's comfort levels, health practices, and boundaries—these are significantly more complex to execute safely.
Critical Safety Considerations
Couples-Only Play
When keeping the fantasy between partners, standard kink safety applies: negotiate scenes thoroughly, maintain safewords, and check in during and after play. Discuss what aspects of prostitution fantasy appeal to each partner and what elements might be triggering or unwanted.
Be aware that this roleplay might surface unexpected emotions—feelings about sexuality, value, and objectification run deep. Create space for processing these feelings together without judgment.
Involving Others
If considering involving additional parties, extensive vetting and negotiation is essential. Verify all participants' STI status with recent testing. Discuss boundaries exhaustively—what acts are permitted, what's off-limits, how will consent be communicated during scenes? Never proceed without enthusiastic consent from everyone involved.
Consider starting with lower-stakes involvement—perhaps a third party who participates verbally or minimally before progressing to full participation. This allows assessing compatibility and comfort levels without high-risk commitment.
Implementing the Fantasy
Setting the Scene
Atmosphere enhances the roleplay. This might include specific clothing (what a "client" expects), location changes (hotel rooms carry different psychology than home bedrooms), or props like fake money. The setup helps both partners enter the fantasy headspace.
Scripts and Structure
Having loose scripts can help, especially initially. Who initiates contact? How is the transaction discussed? What's expected from the "service provider"? Structure reduces awkwardness and helps maintain the fantasy. As comfort grows, more improvisation becomes natural.
Processing Afterward
Aftercare for intense roleplay should include space to decompress from the fantasy and reconnect as partners. Discuss what worked, what felt uncomfortable, and how you feel about each other after the experience. This processing integrates the experience healthily.
Frequently Asked Questions
Is this fantasy problematic?
Consensual fantasy between adults differs fundamentally from exploitation. What matters is that both partners genuinely desire the roleplay, negotiate it thoroughly, and maintain respect for each other throughout. Having fantasies doesn't indicate anything negative about one's values—many people fantasize about things they wouldn't want in reality.
How do we handle jealousy if involving others?
Jealousy is normal and expected when opening sexual experiences beyond the couple. Discuss potential jealousy before scenes, establish signals for when jealousy becomes overwhelming, and prioritize the primary relationship. Many couples find the fantasy more sustainable when kept between themselves rather than involving others.
What if this triggers difficult feelings?
Intense roleplay can surface unexpected emotions. If distressing feelings arise, pause the scene and provide comfort. Discuss what happened in a non-judgmental space. Consider whether modifications would help or whether this particular fantasy doesn't serve your relationship. There's no shame in discovering a fantasy is better left in imagination.
How do we keep this fantasy fresh?
Vary the scenarios—different types of "clients," different services "hired," different power dynamics around who controls the transaction. The core fantasy has numerous variations to explore. Focus on what elements create the most intensity for both of you.
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