The Kink Checklist for Couples
A free Yes/No/Maybe list with 130+ BDSM and kink activities. Rate them privately, compare with your partner, and see only the activities you both want to try.
No signup to start. No tracking. No awkward conversations.
What is Kink Checklist?
Kink Checklist is a free Yes/No/Maybe list. Each partner privately rates 130+ BDSM and kink activities as Yes (interested), Maybe (curious) or No (not for me). The site then highlights only the activities both partners rated Yes — no awkward conversations needed.
- ✓130+ activities in 14 categories
- ✓Give and Receive rating per activity
- ✓Private partner compare via invite link
- ✓No signup, no tracking, no banner or pop-up ads
New to this? The New Topping Book and The New Bottoming Book give you both the same words before you compare lists.
Learn more: What is a Yes/No/Maybe list?
Read these together before you compare
Two books to read together before you compare lists, so you share the same words going in.
The New Topping Book (Easton & Hardy)
Education
The essential guide to topping. Builds confidence, consent skills and technique.
View on Amazon →The New Bottoming Book
Education
A guide to the receiving side of kink. Read it with The New Topping Book before you compare your lists.
View on Amazon →Playing Well With Others
Education
A field guide to kink communities and etiquette. Read it together before you compare your lists.
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Simple. Private. Intimate.
Three steps to deeper connection and understanding
Create Your List
Rate activities based on your interest level. From curious to experienced, express yourself honestly in complete privacy.
Invite Your Partner
Share a private invitation link. They fill out their own checklist independently—no peeking until you're both ready.
Discover Together
See where your desires align. Only mutual interests are revealed, creating a safe space for exploration and conversation.
Explore Your Curiosities
Comprehensive guides to help you understand, communicate, and explore safely
Bodily Fluids and Functions
Explore Bodily Fluids and Functions activities and techniques
Bondage
Explore Bondage activities and techniques
Dominance and Submission
Explore Dominance and Submission activities and techniques
Fetishes
Explore Fetishes activities and techniques
Humiliation
Explore Humiliation activities and techniques
Impact/Sensation Play
Explore Impact/Sensation Play activities and techniques
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