Body Pose / Position Protocol
Establishing specific rules or guidelines for how a partner should stand, sit, or move. Short Explanation: "Receiving" means you conform to the prescribed positions; "Giving" means you dictate them.
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Start Your ChecklistPosition protocols establish specific poses and body positions that the submissive partner assumes on command or in particular circumstances. These protocols create structure within power exchange dynamics, provide immediate visible submission, and give both partners clear framework for expressing their roles.
From simple "kneel when I enter the room" expectations to elaborate position vocabularies with specific poses for different situations, position protocols can be as simple or complex as couples desire. The positions themselves often carry psychological weight, with poses designed to express vulnerability, readiness, or devotion.
This guide explores creating and implementing position protocols within your dynamic, from basic positions to building comprehensive protocols that enhance your D/s relationship.
Understanding Position Protocols
Purpose and Function
Position protocols serve multiple purposes: they provide immediate, visible expression of the power dynamic; they give the submissive concrete ways to demonstrate submission; they create structure and ritual that deepens headspace; and they give dominants clear way to exercise authority through commands.
The act of assuming a position can trigger submissive headspace more effectively than verbal acknowledgment. Physical expression of submission often feels more "real" than purely mental submission.
Common Positions
Standard positions include: standing (various postures expressing different states), kneeling (basic, formal, waiting positions), presenting positions (offering specific body parts), rest positions (comfortable but still protocol), and punishment/correction positions. Each position communicates something different about the submissive's state and the dominant's expectations.
Safety in Position Protocols
Physical Considerations
Positions must be sustainable for expected duration. Kneeling on hard floors damages knees—provide padding or limit duration. Positions straining joints or balance shouldn't be held extended periods. Age, flexibility, and physical conditions affect what positions are appropriate. Build in modifications for physical limitations.
The submissive should communicate immediately if a position causes pain beyond intended discomfort. Dominants should pay attention to signs of physical distress and provide position changes or breaks as needed.
Psychological Safety
Some positions feel more exposing or vulnerable than others. Discuss comfort levels with various poses before incorporating them into protocols. What one person finds beautifully submissive, another might find unbearably humiliating. Build protocols around both partners' comfort levels.
Building Your Protocol
Starting Simple
Begin with one or two positions before building elaborate systems. Perhaps a basic kneeling position for greeting and a standing position for receiving instructions. Master these before adding complexity. Trying to learn ten positions simultaneously leads to confusion rather than graceful protocol.
Naming and Commands
Each position needs clear name and command. "Kneel," "Present," "Rest," "Inspection"—whatever words feel right for your dynamic. Commands should be distinct enough not to be confused with each other. Practice until responses are smooth and automatic.
When Positions Apply
Establish when protocol applies: always when alone together, only during scenes, in specific rooms, after certain triggers. Clear boundaries prevent confusion about when the submissive should assume positions. Some couples have 24/7 position protocol; others use it only in specific contexts.
Frequently Asked Questions
How many positions should we have?
Start with 2-3 and add gradually as mastery develops. A complete protocol might have 6-12 positions covering various needs. More than that becomes difficult to remember and execute smoothly. Quality of execution matters more than quantity of positions.
What if I can't physically do certain positions?
Modify positions to your body's capabilities. The psychological significance matters more than exact form. A person who can't kneel might have a seated position serving the same protocol function. Work with your body rather than forcing inappropriate positions.
How do we practice without disrupting daily life?
Designate practice times—perhaps 15 minutes daily devoted to position training. Or integrate practice into existing moments: "When I come home, you'll be in greeting position." Consistent brief practice builds automatic responses better than occasional lengthy sessions.
Should positions be comfortable or challenging?
Most positions should be sustainable—you'll use them frequently. Include one or two "stress" positions for specific purposes (punishment, intense scenes), but daily-use positions should be maintainable without distress. Discomfort can have purpose, but constant pain isn't sustainable protocol.
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