Collar (semi-private / events)
Wearing a collar in semi-private settings or at BDSM events. Short Explanation: "Receiving" means you wear the collar in such settings; "Giving" means you enforce it at events.
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Start Your ChecklistEvent and Semi-Private Collars
Semi-private collars are worn at BDSM events, munches, play parties, and within the kink community while remaining private from vanilla life. This approach allows meaningful collar use in spaces where it's understood and appreciated without navigating public discretion.
Event Collar Selection
At BDSM events, collars can be overtly kinky—heavy leather, prominent D-rings, chains, locks, and attached tags or bells. These settings welcome visible expressions of dynamic that would draw attention elsewhere. Many couples maintain separate event collars that are more elaborate than day collars.
Community Recognition and Protocol
Collars at events communicate status to others. Approaches differ by community, but generally: collared submissives are claimed, approaching requires respect for that connection, and some protocols expect speaking with the Dominant before extended conversation with their submissive. Understand local customs.
Rituals and Transitions
Many couples create rituals around event collaring—formal placement before entering venues, perhaps during dressing or in the car. These transitions help partners enter event headspace together. Removal rituals after events can help decompress and return to vanilla presentation.
Frequently Asked Questions
What's appropriate for a first munch or event?
Munches are often collar-optional given public venues. Play parties welcome visible collars. Start conservatively and observe community norms before escalating visibility.
How formal are collar protocols at events?
Varies dramatically by community and venue. Some expect formal protocol around collared individuals, others are casual. Ask experienced community members about local expectations.
Should we bring multiple collar options to events?
Consider having play-appropriate collars (sturdy for attachment) versus social collars (comfortable for hours of wear). Different event phases may suit different options.
What if someone at an event already knows us from vanilla life?
This risk exists at any community event. Discuss in advance how you'd handle unexpected recognition. Many develop graceful responses or choose distant events initially.
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