Consensual Non-consent
Engaging in role-play that simulates non-consensual acts, but with clear consent and boundaries established beforehand. Short Explanation: "Receiving" means you simulate submission in non-consent play; "Giving" means you simulate the dominant role responsibly.
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Start Your ChecklistConsensual Non-Consent (CNC)
Consensual non-consent describes scenes where partners have pre-negotiated blanket consent for activities that will proceed despite in-scene resistance or protest. This advanced form of power exchange allows exploration of ravishment, struggle, and forced fantasies within ethical frameworks.
How CNC Differs from Standard Consent
In typical BDSM, "no" or a safeword stops action immediately. In CNC, scene resistance is expected and doesn't stop play—only pre-established safewords function. This requires extensive trust, detailed negotiation, and clear understanding that the bottom is consenting to struggle against activities they ultimately want.
Essential Safety Measures
CNC demands exceptional preparation. Negotiate exhaustively in advance—what's on the table, what's absolutely off limits, exactly how to safeword including non-verbal options if gagged. Both partners must be in excellent mental health with no trauma that might surface unexpectedly. Start with limited CNC before broader blanket consent.
Aftercare for CNC
CNC scenes often require intensive aftercare. The bottom may experience complex emotions about enjoying "forced" activities. The top may need reassurance about partner wellbeing after intense scenes. Extended reconnection time, explicit affirmation of consent, and processing conversations support both partners.
Frequently Asked Questions
Isn't this just assault with extra steps?
No—the defining feature is pre-established consent. Both partners want the encounter, negotiated its boundaries, and have safewords available. Absence of in-scene consent was agreed upon in advance.
How do we establish trust for CNC?
Build extensive play history together, demonstrate consistent safeword honoring in standard scenes, discuss limits repeatedly, start with limited CNC elements before full scenes.
What if something goes wrong?
Safewords must work immediately—no exceptions. Follow up with extensive care, possibly professional support. Some couples find certain CNC elements don't work for them and adjust accordingly.
Can trauma survivors engage in CNC?
Some find it therapeutic with proper support; others find it triggering. Consult trauma-informed therapists before attempting. Never pressure survivors into CNC regardless of their recovery progress.
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