Dildos
Phallic-shaped toys used for penetration or external stimulation. Short Explanation: "Receiving" means you are penetrated or stimulated with a dildo; "Giving" means you use it on your partner.
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Dildos are non-vibrating penetrative toys used for vaginal, anal, or oral stimulation. These versatile implements range from realistic to abstract, tiny to enormous, serving solo pleasure, partner play, and various BDSM dynamics including forced orgasm, training, and objectification scenes.
Types and Materials
Dildos come in silicone (body-safe, various firmness), glass (rigid, temperature play capable), metal (weighted, temperature responsive), and various plastics. Shapes include realistic, abstract, fantasy designs, and double-ended versions. Size ranges from finger-width to extreme dimensions. Choose based on intended use and experience level.
BDSM Applications
In power exchange, dildos serve multiple purposes: Dominants control penetration pace and depth, forced orgasm scenes use relentless stimulation, training protocols incorporate regular use, and objectification scenes may require wearing or displaying inserted toys. Hands-free mounting options enable predicament bondage combinations.
Selection Considerations
Body-safe materials (medical-grade silicone, glass, stainless steel) should be prioritized. Flared bases are mandatory for anal use. Size should match experience level with room to grow. Consider firmness—softer feels different than rigid. Realistic versus abstract depends on psychological preferences.
Frequently Asked Questions
What makes a dildo "body-safe"?
Non-porous materials that won't harbor bacteria and don't contain harmful chemicals. Medical-grade silicone, borosilicate glass, and stainless steel are ideal. Avoid jelly rubber, PVC, and mystery materials.
How do I choose size for a beginner?
Start smaller than you think necessary. Average vaginal dildos begin around 1-1.25" diameter; anal starts smaller. You can always size up—starting too large creates negative experiences.
Can dildos be shared between partners?
With proper cleaning between uses, body-safe materials can be shared. Using condoms on shared toys adds protection. Porous materials shouldn't be shared as they can't be fully sterilized.
What about harness compatibility?
Strap-on use requires harness-compatible bases—typically flared or with O-ring accommodation. Check compatibility before purchasing if strap-on use is planned.
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