Face Sitting
Sitting on a partner's face, often as a form of humiliation or dominance. Short Explanation: "Receiving" means you are sat upon; "Giving" means you enact the dominant face sitting.
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Start Your ChecklistFace sitting, also known as queening or kinging, is an intimate position where one partner sits on or hovers over the other partner face, typically to receive oral stimulation. This position has gained popularity for its unique combination of physical pleasure and power dynamics, offering benefits to both the person sitting and the person giving. Beyond the physical sensations, face sitting creates an intensely intimate encounter that many couples find deeply connecting.
The appeal of face sitting extends beyond simple oral pleasure. For the person on top, the position offers control over pressure, angle, and movement, allowing them to guide the experience toward maximum pleasure. For the person underneath, the position provides an immersive experience of giving pleasure while being surrounded by their partner body. Many practitioners also appreciate the dominant and submissive dynamics inherent in the position, regardless of which role they prefer.
This comprehensive guide covers the techniques and variations of face sitting, important safety considerations including breathing and weight distribution, tips for beginners just starting to explore this position, and guidance for discussing this activity with your partner. Whether you are curious about trying face sitting for the first time or looking to enhance your existing practice, understanding the fundamentals leads to better experiences for everyone involved.
How Face Sitting Works
Face sitting involves one partner positioning themselves over the other partner face, either seated or hovering, while the partner underneath provides oral stimulation. The mechanics are straightforward, but refinements in technique significantly impact the experience.
Techniques and Variations
Several variations of face sitting accommodate different preferences and comfort levels:
- Forward facing: The sitting partner faces toward the lying partner body, allowing eye contact and access to their partner body for additional stimulation
- Reverse position: The sitting partner faces away, offering different angles and the opportunity for simultaneous 69 position activities
- Full weight: Complete sitting with full body weight, typically preferred in more intense D/s dynamics
- Hovering: The sitting partner supports their weight on their knees, controlling the amount of contact
- Grinding: Active movement by the sitting partner to control stimulation
- Smothering: A more intense variation focused on breath play elements
The position can be adjusted for vulva, penis, or anus stimulation depending on the desires of both partners. Angles and height can be modified by adding pillows under the receiving partner head or having the sitting partner adjust their position.
Equipment and Tools
While no equipment is strictly necessary, several items can enhance comfort and experience:
- Queening chairs: Specially designed furniture that allows the sitting partner to rest while providing easier access
- Pillows: Standard pillows or sex-position pillows that elevate the receiving partner head for better angles
- Wedges: Foam wedges that create optimal angles while reducing strain
- Headboards: Something for the sitting partner to hold for balance and to control weight distribution
- Dental dams: Barrier protection for safer oral contact
- Lubricant: Water-based lubricants can enhance sensations and comfort
Safety Considerations
Face sitting requires attention to specific safety elements that differ from other sexual positions. Proper awareness and communication prevent problems.
Physical Safety
The primary physical concern is breathing. The person underneath must be able to breathe at all times unless breath play is specifically negotiated and practiced with appropriate precautions. Establish clear signals for the person underneath to indicate they need a break or adjustment.
Weight distribution matters significantly. The sitting partner should support most of their weight on their knees rather than fully sitting unless specifically negotiated. Check in regularly about neck strain for the person underneath, as the position can be demanding over time.
Consider jaw fatigue for the person giving oral stimulation. Take breaks as needed. The sitting partner should be attentive to signs of fatigue and offer rest periods proactively.
Emotional Safety
Face sitting can feel vulnerable for both partners in different ways. The person underneath may feel trapped or overwhelmed, while the sitting partner may feel self-conscious about their body or weight. Create space for both partners to express concerns without judgment.
For the person underneath, establishing that they can tap out at any time and will be immediately accommodated builds trust. For the sitting partner, verbal reassurance about desirability and enthusiasm can address body image concerns.
Red Flags
Watch for these warning signs during face sitting:
- Difficulty breathing that is not immediately addressed
- Neck pain or strain being ignored
- One partner appearing distressed but not speaking up
- Pressure to continue despite requests for breaks
- Jaw pain signals being overlooked
- Panic responses from either partner
Beginners Guide to Face Sitting
Starting with face sitting requires preparation and communication to ensure both partners have a positive first experience.
Step 1: Discuss Before Trying
Have a frank conversation about interest, concerns, and expectations. Address any body image concerns, discuss weight and breathing considerations, and establish clear signals for communication during the act.
Step 2: Start with Hovering
Begin with the sitting partner supporting their weight on their knees, hovering rather than fully sitting. This allows both partners to adjust to the position without overwhelming either person.
Step 3: Establish Communication Signals
Create clear signals for pause, stop, and more. Since verbal communication may be difficult, consider tap signals: one tap for "I am okay," two taps for "let me breathe," and continuous tapping for "stop immediately."
Step 4: Use Props
A pillow under the receiving partner head reduces neck strain. A headboard or sturdy furniture for the sitting partner to hold provides balance and weight control. These aids make the position more sustainable.
Step 5: Keep Sessions Short Initially
Begin with brief sessions of a few minutes to assess comfort and stamina for both partners. Duration can increase as you become more comfortable with the position and each other preferences.
Step 6: Debrief Afterward
Discuss what worked well and what could be improved. Was breathing ever an issue? Was the angle comfortable? Did both partners enjoy the experience? Use this feedback to refine future encounters.
Discussing with Your Partner
Initiating a conversation about face sitting requires sensitivity to potential concerns and openness about desires.
Share your interest honestly. Explain what appeals to you about face sitting, whether it is the physical sensations, the intimacy, or the power dynamics. Framing your interest positively helps your partner understand your perspective.
Invite their honest response. Some partners may share your enthusiasm, while others may have concerns or reservations. Create space for them to express any worries without judgment. Common concerns include weight anxiety, breathing worries, and uncertainty about technique.
Address practical matters. Discuss positions, signals, and safety measures openly. Knowing these details are covered can help hesitant partners feel more secure about trying something new.
Respect limits. If your partner is not interested, accept their decision gracefully. They may become curious over time, or this may simply not be an activity they want to explore. Pressuring undermines trust and consent.
If trying it together, plan for open feedback. Agree that either partner can give direction during the experience and that adjustments will be made willingly. This collaborative approach makes the first experience more likely to be positive.
Frequently Asked Questions
Will I suffocate my partner if I sit on their face?
With proper technique and communication, suffocation is not a concern during normal face sitting. Start by hovering rather than fully sitting, establish clear tap signals for needing air, and remain attentive to your partner needs. Your partner can always turn their head to the side if they need to breathe. Full-weight smothering is a more advanced practice that requires additional safety measures.
What if I feel self-conscious about my body during face sitting?
Body image concerns are common, especially for the sitting partner. Remember that your partner has enthusiastically agreed to this intimate position because they desire you. Dim lighting, positioning adjustments, and verbal reassurance from your partner can help. Many people find that once they experience the pleasure of face sitting, self-consciousness fades.
Is face sitting only for female-bodied people?
Absolutely not. Face sitting can be enjoyed regardless of anatomy. People with penises can receive oral stimulation in this position, and the practice is popular across all gender configurations. The mechanics may vary, but the intimacy and pleasure are accessible to everyone.
How do I last longer in face sitting without jaw fatigue?
The person underneath can reduce jaw strain by using their tongue, lips, and the rest of their face rather than just their mouth. The sitting partner can grind and move rather than relying solely on the receiving partner efforts. Taking breaks and switching to hands briefly can extend sessions. Building stamina happens over time with practice.
Can face sitting incorporate power dynamics?
Yes, face sitting naturally lends itself to power exchange. The sitting partner is in a position of physical dominance, while the person underneath is in service. These dynamics can be enhanced with verbal commands, restrictions on the receiving partner movement, or framing the activity as worship or service.
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