Slave Positions
Using specific positions or postures that symbolize submission or servitude. Short Explanation: "Receiving" means you adopt a slave position; "Giving" means you dictate it.
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Start Your ChecklistSlave positions represent a foundational element of formal power exchange relationships, providing structured physical expressions of submission that reinforce dynamic roles between partners. These codified postures serve multiple purposes: they create instant visual confirmation of the power dynamic, provide the submissive with clear expectations, and establish rituals that deepen the psychological bond between dominant and submissive.
In this guide, you'll learn about common positions used in BDSM dynamics, the purposes they serve, how to implement them safely, and how to develop a personalized position vocabulary with your partner. Whether you're exploring formal protocols for the first time or refining an established dynamic, understanding slave positions enhances communication and deepens connection.
The beauty of position training lies in its adaptability. While traditional positions have names and forms passed down through BDSM communities, every partnership can modify, create, or adapt positions to suit their specific dynamic, physical capabilities, and aesthetic preferences. The positions become a private language between partners.
How Slave Positions Work
Slave positions function as both practical tools and psychological anchors within power exchange dynamics. When a submissive assumes a position, they physically embody their role, which can help facilitate the mental shift into submission.
Common Traditional Positions
Kneeling (Nadu/Open): Kneeling upright with knees spread comfortably apart, back straight, hands resting palms-up on thighs, head slightly lowered with eyes down. This position signifies openness and availability.
Kneeling (Tower/Closed): Similar to open kneeling but with knees together, often used in more modest or formal settings. Hands may rest on thighs or be clasped behind the back.
Inspection: Standing with feet shoulder-width apart, hands clasped behind the head, allowing full visual and physical access for examination by the dominant.
Present: On hands and knees with chest lowered toward the floor and hips raised, presenting the posterior. Used for impact play, inspection, or display.
Prostration: Lying face down, arms extended forward or to the sides, demonstrating complete submission. Sometimes includes forehead touching the ground.
Display: Various positions designed to showcase the submissive's body for the dominant's appreciation, often customized to highlight particular features.
Purposes of Position Training
Position training serves multiple functions in a dynamic. Protocol establishment creates clear expectations and rituals. Mental anchoring helps submissives enter their headspace through physical action. Discipline training develops body control and patience. Aesthetic appreciation provides visual pleasure for dominants. Accessibility positions the submissive for activities like inspection, impact play, or service.
Developing Your Own Position Vocabulary
While traditional positions offer a starting point, many couples develop personalized positions meaningful to their specific dynamic. Consider what positions would serve your activities, what physical expressions of submission resonate for both partners, and what verbal or visual cues will signal each position.
Safety Considerations
While slave positions may seem simple, physical safety requires attention, especially during extended position holding.
Physical Safety
Joint stress is the primary physical concern with positions. Prolonged kneeling can strain knees—use padding and limit duration based on the submissive's comfort. Positions requiring raised arms can cause circulation issues if held too long. Prostration positions can strain the lower back. Positions with spread limbs should respect individual flexibility limits.
Build duration gradually. A submissive new to position training might hold positions for only a few minutes initially, extending as physical conditioning improves. Always provide a way for the submissive to signal physical distress (not just general safewords, but specific signals for physical discomfort that might not warrant ending the scene but requires position adjustment).
Consider pre-existing conditions. Joint problems, back issues, and circulatory conditions all affect position capabilities. Adapt positions to accommodate disabilities or limitations rather than forcing bodies into forms that cause injury.
Emotional Safety
Positions carry psychological weight. The vulnerability of certain positions (particularly inspection or display positions) can trigger unexpected emotional responses. Check in regularly when introducing new positions, especially those involving exposure or vulnerability.
Some submissives find position training deeply grounding and centering; others may experience it as challenging or emotionally intense. Neither response is wrong, but understanding individual reactions helps calibrate training approaches.
Red Flags to Watch For
Warning signs during position training include: numbness or tingling in any extremity, pain beyond normal muscle engagement, visible paleness or color changes in limbs, trembling that indicates physical failure rather than pleasurable strain, and emotional distress signals. If the submissive cannot maintain a position without significant distress, modify the position or end that portion of the scene.
Beginner's Guide to Slave Positions
Starting with slave positions offers a low-intensity entry into formal power exchange that can be practiced and perfected over time.
Step 1: Discuss the concept. Before introducing positions, talk with your partner about what you both hope to gain from this practice. Understand each other's physical capabilities and limitations.
Step 2: Start with two or three basic positions. Overwhelming a submissive with too many positions initially makes learning frustrating. Begin with a kneeling position, a standing position, and perhaps a floor position. Master these before expanding the vocabulary.
Step 3: Establish clear commands. Each position needs an associated verbal cue. "Kneel," "Present," "Inspection"—whatever words feel natural to your dynamic. Consistency in commands aids quick learning.
Step 4: Practice in low-pressure settings. Early position training works best separated from high-intensity scenes. Practice during quiet time, making it about learning and connection rather than perfection.
Step 5: Build duration gradually. Start with holding positions for 30 seconds to a minute, then extend based on the submissive's developing physical endurance. Celebrate progress rather than demanding perfection.
Step 6: Provide feedback. Dominants should offer specific, constructive feedback: "Your back could be straighter," "Perfect hand placement," etc. Avoid harsh criticism during learning phases.
Step 7: Integrate into your dynamic. Once positions are learned, incorporate them naturally into your interactions. A submissive might kneel when the dominant returns home, or assume a present position before impact play.
Discussing Slave Positions with Your Partner
Introducing the concept of formal positions requires navigating both practical and psychological considerations with your partner.
Begin by sharing what appeals to you about positions. For dominants, this might include the visual beauty of a kneeling partner, the clear expression of power dynamic, or the ritual nature of commanded positions. For submissives, appeal might lie in clear expectations, the meditative quality of holding positions, or the physical expression of inner feelings.
Address potential concerns openly. Some partners may feel positions are "too formal" or worry about the physical demands. Acknowledge these concerns and discuss modifications that might address them while preserving the essence of what appeals to you.
Explore together what positions might look like in your specific dynamic. Would positions be used daily, only during scenes, or on special occasions? What purpose would they serve? Creating this vision together ensures both partners invest in the practice.
Start small and build. Propose trying one or two positions for a defined period to see how they feel for both partners. This low-commitment approach reduces pressure while allowing genuine exploration.
Remember that positions should enhance connection, not create distance. If position training becomes a source of stress or conflict rather than deepening intimacy, reassess the approach.
Frequently Asked Questions
What if I have bad knees and can't kneel?
Positions are infinitely adaptable. A submissive with knee problems might use a sitting position on a low stool, a supported kneeling position with cushioning and back support, or standing positions instead. The submissive's physical capability determines appropriate positions—the symbolic meaning transfers to whatever forms work for your body.
How many positions should a submissive learn?
There's no required number. Some dynamics use only two or three positions; elaborate protocols might include a dozen or more. Start with what serves your practical needs and aesthetic preferences. Quality of execution matters more than quantity of positions.
Do position names have to be traditional terms?
Not at all. While terms like "Nadu" (from Gorean traditions) or "Present" are commonly recognized, you can use any terminology that works for your dynamic. Some couples prefer everyday words; others create entirely private vocabularies. The command-response relationship matters more than specific words.
Can positions be used in public vanilla settings?
Subtle protocols can extend into public spaces. A submissive might always sit to the left of their dominant, maintain a specific posture, or use subtle hand positions unnoticeable to vanilla observers. These adaptations maintain dynamic connection without overt display.
What if I can't remember all the positions during a scene?
Forgetting is normal during learning phases. Dominants can offer patient reminders, make minor corrections physically by guiding the submissive into position, or simplify by using fewer positions in high-intensity scenes. With practice, positions become automatic.
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