Spitting – external
Spitting on a partner's body as part of humiliation or degradation play. Short Explanation: "Receiving" means you are spat on externally; "Giving" means you spit on your partner.
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Start Your ChecklistExternal spitting—targeting the body rather than the mouth—represents one of the most common ways partners incorporate spitting into BDSM dynamics. Whether directed at the face, chest, genitals, or other body parts, external spitting carries powerful psychological significance while remaining relatively accessible for those exploring this form of power exchange.
This guide examines the dynamics of external spitting, from its psychological meaning to practical considerations for incorporating it safely and meaningfully into scenes. Understanding what external spitting offers—and what it requires—helps partners engage with intention and mutual satisfaction.
External spitting often serves as an entry point for those curious about spitting dynamics, offering intensity without some of the health considerations of oral exchange.
Understanding External Spitting
The location and context of spitting significantly shapes its meaning within a scene.
Face Targeting
Spitting on someone's face carries the strongest humiliation and dominance connotations. Culturally coded as deeply disrespectful, consensual face spitting creates intense power differential. Many find this the most psychologically impactful form of external spitting.
Body Targeting
Spitting on the chest, back, genitals, or other body parts provides sensation focus with somewhat less humiliation intensity than face targeting. This can serve as the main attraction or as a stepping stone while building comfort with spitting dynamics.
Sensation vs. Psychology
Some practitioners focus on the physical sensation of warm saliva on skin, which can be incorporated into sensory play. Others prioritize the psychological meaning—dominance assertion, claiming, marking. Understanding which aspect appeals most helps partners tailor the experience.
Visual Impact
The visual of saliva on skin or dripping down the face creates powerful imagery for many. This visual component can enhance the experience for both partners, particularly dominants who enjoy seeing their mark on their submissive.
Safety Considerations
External spitting presents minimal physical risk but requires attention to several factors.
Avoiding Sensitive Areas
Avoid spitting directly into eyes, as this can cause irritation or, rarely, infection transmission. If face targeting, aim for cheeks, forehead, or mouth area rather than directly at eyes.
Health Status Awareness
While external spitting on intact skin poses minimal risk, it's wise to avoid the activity if either partner has active cold sores, oral infections, or illness. Skin provides an effective barrier, but caution is reasonable.
Open Wounds Consideration
Avoid spitting on open wounds, fresh cuts, or broken skin where infection transmission could occur. On intact skin, risk is minimal.
Consent Verification
External spitting still requires explicit consent. Discuss specific locations, intensity levels, and context before incorporating into scenes. What feels acceptable to one person may be a hard limit for another.
Techniques and Approaches
External spitting can be incorporated in various ways depending on the desired dynamic.
Intensity Control
A light misting differs from a forceful, targeted spit. Starting gentler allows partners to gauge response before increasing intensity. The psychological impact can be significant even with gentle application.
Building Within Scenes
External spitting often works well as punctuation within scenes—after impact play strikes, during verbal humiliation, or as a dominant gesture during oral service. It can serve as a momentary intensity spike or as ongoing element throughout a scene.
Cleanup as Continuation
Having the submissive wipe saliva away, leave it in place, or even lick it off themselves extends the dynamic. The cleanup itself becomes part of the power exchange.
Combining with Other Activities
External spitting pairs naturally with face slapping, hair pulling, verbal degradation, and impact play. Consider how spitting fits into your broader scene structure.
Getting Started
For those curious about incorporating external spitting into their dynamic.
Discuss Interest First
Bring up interest during kink negotiation conversations, not during scenes. Understanding what appeals to each partner and what concerns exist helps establish appropriate boundaries.
Start with Lower Intensity
Begin with body targeting rather than face targeting if either partner is uncertain. Starting gentler allows for building comfort and adjusting based on actual response.
Check In During and After
Pay attention to partner response during scenes. Afterward, discuss what worked and what adjustments might improve future experiences.
Have Supplies Ready
Keep tissues or towels accessible for cleanup. Some partners prefer immediate cleanup; others incorporate saliva remaining on skin as part of the dynamic.
Frequently Asked Questions
Is external spitting safer than spitting in the mouth?
Generally yes. Intact skin provides a barrier that mucous membranes don't offer. External spitting poses minimal infection transmission risk when skin is unbroken.
What if I want face spitting but my partner only wants body?
Start with what both are comfortable with. Trust and comfort may develop over time, or limits may remain—either is valid. Pushing past stated boundaries is never acceptable.
Is it normal to be aroused by being spat on?
Yes. Many people find the power exchange and psychological intensity of being spat on arousing. This is a common element of BDSM dynamics.
How do I maintain intensity without face targeting?
Context, verbal accompaniment, and integration with other activities can maintain psychological intensity even with body targeting. The meaning you give the action matters as much as location.
Should spitting be part of humiliation play only?
No. While spitting often appears in humiliation contexts, some partners experience it as marking, claiming, or intimacy through transgression without humiliation framing. Define what it means in your dynamic.
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