Chosen food for
Eating only food chosen by a dominant partner. Short Explanation: "Receiving" means your food is chosen; "Giving" means you decide your partners food.
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Having a Dominant choose food for their submissive incorporates power exchange into the fundamental act of eating. This intimate form of control touches daily life multiple times, creating regular opportunities to reinforce the dynamic through something essential to survival.
Approaches to Food Control
Food control varies widely in implementation. Some Dominants order for submissives at restaurants, others plan weekly meals, and some control every bite consumed. Consider what level serves your dynamic—occasional restaurant ordering feels different from comprehensive dietary control. Start conservatively and expand based on mutual satisfaction.
Health and Safety Considerations
Responsible food control respects nutritional needs, allergies, medical conditions, and eating disorder histories. Dominants controlling diet should understand basic nutrition and their submissive's health requirements. This practice should never compromise wellbeing—the goal is power exchange, not deprivation. Regular check-ins ensure the submissive receives adequate nutrition.
The Psychology of Nurturing Control
Food control often carries nurturing undertones—the Dominant provides sustenance, caring for their submissive's needs. This creates complex dynamics of dependence and care that many find deeply satisfying. The submissive surrenders autonomy over something fundamental, demonstrating profound trust. The Dominant accepts responsibility for their partner's nourishment.
Frequently Asked Questions
How do we handle food control with eating disorder history?
Proceed extremely cautiously or avoid entirely. Consult mental health professionals familiar with both eating disorders and BDSM before implementing any food control with this history.
What about restaurant situations with vanilla company?
Develop subtle signals—perhaps the submissive indicates preferences quietly, and the Dominant orders "for both of us." This maintains discretion while preserving the dynamic.
Should this include restricting food quantities?
Generally inadvisable. Caloric restriction can harm health and trigger disordered eating. Focus on what is eaten rather than how much.
How do we handle cravings and preferences?
Build in communication channels. Many Dominants appreciate knowing preferences so they can choose to indulge or deny them intentionally rather than through ignorance.
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